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If you are a painter, surprise him with your very own with of his portrait. You have to be subtle sometimes. Some men like it when their women play hard to get. You still have your work, responsibilities, and with affairs to attend to. Show him that you are a busy person too, and sexally you still have your own life.
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You just you listen to and watch her climax, all while you feel nothing. There she sits, on your penis, rubbing back and forth until she climaxes. But remember, this is what the woman wants and enjoys. So grin and fake it, since you get nothing from this unfulfilling act. You hardly ever get an orgasm, from her. Imagine your anger and dissatisfaction when you read articles from traitormen authors, who always support and defend the woman.
Then the traitor authors and the women continue criticizing men for wanting to avoid sex with the women. Imagine how it would feel, if all during your male sexual life, you are scolded and told to shut up and accept that chafe feeling on your penis, just because your woman needs to climax, so that she can feel love and optimism with you.
Imagine this feeling. Because this is exactly, what women feel all the time. I still am shocked and surprised at this author. I find it hard to respect a traitor. How dare a woman, tell other women to feel ashamed by the way she was made. How dare you side with men! Shame on you, and these ugly attutude men! Put another way, most women love shopping.
Debra, that is not what anonymous was saying. He simply was saying that if he feels psychologically rejected as a man because he desires his partner sexually and then judged by her for an intate and healthy part of himself without intending to just "use" her, it would be very hard to want to open up to her about the rest of his feelings. Would you want to bare your soul to someonw who judges a part of you and your motives as wrong? You are wanting to make this into him manipulating his partner for sex, which was not his motive.
After years of celibacy because of my faith as a Christian woman, I agree that the male sex drive can definitely be a gift. I guess some women get a bit spoiled by knowing their husbands or partners will usually always want sex with them or at least the men who have high sex drives. But, to be honest, I miss that tremendously.
I'm an older female who went through an early menopause and am not "fertile" anymore, but my sex drive is just as strong , even in a better way, as when i was younger.
Maybe it's because I'm a "feeling" type personality and I've always loved intimacy In that way, I don't know. But because it's been void in my life my choice until marriage, and still have men attracted to me , i think I can see it from a fresh new perspective now on how special it can be.
Unfortunately, some past boyfriends have abused the intimacy between us by makng me feel very desired right before sex and then criticizing imperfections in my body right after making love ridiculous things like, I didn't have enough muscle definition in my upper back, thighs too big in proportion to the rest of my body, or a dimple in my derriere Sometimes directly after lovemaking a boyfriend would feel the need to open up to me about how he fantasized about other women at work, or his attention would be directed towards other females for the rest of the day and not me afterwards.
These were obvious intimacy and relationship killers , and ended up making me feel used which lowered my sex drive. Granted these guys were in their twenties and some immature ones in their forties , but men need to understand how much that can kill a woman's desire for sex.
I'm not saying that you do these things at all, or that most men do. And yes, there are women who generally aren't very interested in sex no matter how their partner treats them.
But there are women who do celebrate a man's sexuality as long as it's not destructive to a woman. I love the mystery and excitement from the differences between a man and a woman I agree with the author that it's something to be celebrated and it was nice to hear her perspective as a professional.
As a side note, I wish that the replies to posters would fall directly underneath their comments to avoid confusion. Reading this article, my heart throbs in aching despair for the teenagers out there who are beginning to explore their sexuality, who have a largely unstable self-concept, and who come to articles like these as opposed to forums like Yahoo! Answers to gain what they think are legitimate insights on their sex partners or romantic pursuits.
If I were a young, female teenager reading this article, hoping to draw insights that could help me in a relationship I was pursuing, all I would have drawn from this is, if a guy wants to have sex with me, it means he truly loves me, he just shows it in a more superficial way.
I will not delve into, within the confines of this comment, the many unhealthy and self-detrimental implications this can have on a largely uninformed and eagerly-inquiring reader's life, and the warped, life-long misconceptions it can elicit.
The injustice you have done to our teenagers by publishing this article is appalling. I hope that you do not consider yourself a feminist, because you have done an excellent job of making wider the gap between the sexes.
You should have stopped toward the beginning of the article when you stated "I obviously don't know what it feels like to be a man", because you obviously don't.
I disagree. I think the author was right on target and speaks for many men. And I don't think it's going to "damage" teenagers reading it. Just how "child proof" must an article be before it can be exposed to the public?
By your standards, you couldn't publish anything until it's been so sanitized and "damage proofed" that it ends up being so generic and bland that it essentially says nothing except "sex is something you should value and wait for until marriage" or something equally vacuous. To make a point, present thoughts and points of your own that you think should have been stated instead.
Until you've done that, it's fair to assume you have no point at all, other than to whine and bellyache. This is just further evidence of how far people will run from the facts. Anything they consider to be morally disasteful, is immediately assigned an untruth. And ironically this is now coming from supposedly enlightened liberals. People - and I'm afraid to say mostly liberal women and modern feminists- simply do not want hear the truth about sexuality especially the male side.
This is appallingly weak minded. Those that run from reality are infantile. They will fail to live happy lives because real life will always fail to meet their expectations. Instead of adapting, they will rail and become bitter - you can see that clearly above. It worries me greatly that the weak minded, the utopians and idealists are undermining the culture that gave them a voice to begin with.
Anyway, from me at least, keep up the great work and always have the courage to say what most find unpalatable. Mansacks what are you talking about? It's liberals fault? Liberals are the ones accepting different sex drives and alternative lifestyles to satisfy those needs.
Liberals are the ones who tend to be nonjudgmental. Conservatives tend to have that moralistic belief that men shouldn't crave sex, even to the point of making it a sin and damnable to hell. But that's besides the point. There are minds on both sides for and against the expression of male sexuality, as you probably already know in your heart. If every battle in your heart is liberals vs conservatives, you are going to find strange rationalizations to fit your worldview. But for gods sakes Be realistic.
I don't think it's weak-minded or utopian to say, this type of relationship is simply a bad deal for the woman? She gives up her friends and social circle, time with her family, time to grow and learn, to have fun, to look after herself, to build career opportunities, in order to serve his sexual needs and bear his children until he tires of her body and somebody else's body captures his attention. Then she works for minimal wages raising the kids alone and goes into an old age of loneliness and poverty, paying a lifelong penalty for having fallen for a promise that he was never willing or able to honor.
What I personally regret the most is the years with my grandmother that I could have had. Instead I moved to the US to be with my husband. Now she's dead and nothing will ever bring her back to me. I loved her so much, and she loved me. That is all. Nothing personal. I know it's not his fault, like Dr. Laurie explains, his brain stews in his hormones and he can't see beyond his need to use other people's bodies for masturbation. I could have known all that but I fell for the illusion. The destruction of my life is my own fault, I say that with regret, not in an accusatory manner.
If I had been honest with myself about my looks and my body, I would have known that you cannot build a family or a future on its power to "bring him back". It was wrong of me and hugely damaging for my children that I was not more realistic about my level of attractivity and what childbirth and sleeplessness and worry and work would do to further diminish me, and ten thousands of hours of work, countless tender gestures for him and his family could never, ever make up for it because that is all that counts.
So my life's time, my life's energy, my life's opportunities, my love were completely wasted. Not that you would care, and I don't blame you for it.
I'm just trying to give voice to what it feels like to be on the receiving end of such egocentric and dehumanizing behavior as Dr. Laurie has described here. The fact that some men are jerks has nothing to do with what Laurie says. The fact that men can enjoy sex and the reasons for it does not make them jerks. Your interpretation of the article would be the same misunderstanding as claiming that all women are gold-diggers just because a study showed that women often value a man with resources, ambition and earning ability.
And that then explains why my wife left me for a richer man, and all women are like that, and so I'm glad I'm rid of women. Just recycled whining and complaining. That's only your interpretation made to fit your circumstances, apparently. For other men, sex is what bonds them to their one woman, and it makes that bond even stronger than it would have been without a sexual connection.
Maria, You obviously had a heartbreaking marriage with your ex husband. But what I see from your posts is that because of the way your father treated women and how you were treated by men, you have built up a tremendous wall to never trust men.
What I see is that you don't trust your own judgment or attraction to certain types of men. Many women choose men that are like their fathers, as many men choose women like their mothers. A lot of times we are trying to work out our childhood pain through relationships. But rather than judging all men as evil , maybe rather than denying yourself of a future relationship that could be fullfilling, perhaps seek a good counselor to help you work through past abuses and sadness from your childhood.
Again, I'm not trying get to judge or patronize you, I understand the dynamics and have suffered myself. But judging all men and the author so harshly is not fair. You and others here have projected a lot of your own fears and pain onto this author who was simply trying to give healthy insight into men's sexuality. I found her observations to be honest, insightfull and wholesome as well.
She not once promoted infidelity, misogyny, or devalued women or men in any way. Our hormones and sexuality are part of who we are as men and women.
We can still have integrity and embrace our sexuality. It doesn't have to be destructive. He's laying temporary ownership claims on a tight vagina and perky breasts. And when a tighter vagina and perkier breasts come along, he'll bond with that for a while. But I live in the real world.
I have to put a roof over my children's head, and they are hungry every three hours, and I work 60 hours a week and worry about losing my job every day because I need money and health insurance.
And my daughter has asthma, and my mom has diabetes and is too depressed to take care of it. And nobody has mowed the lawn in three weeks and I now have to pay a fine to the city for which I have no money That is my life, the life that Maria inhabits, and most women's lives, I suppose. All I'm saying is that that "bond" that comes from his fleeting sexual interests isn't worth anything.
It is, in fact, dangerous for a woman to enter into such a fantasy relationship because it gives her the false illusion that she has someone in her corner, and there's nobody there. She is all alone in that corner, even if he comes home for sex several nights a week. I'm not alone in thinking that that is not a recommendable life choice. Laurie would do any woman which she counsels to enter or stay in such a relationship severe personal and financial damage, unless I'm misunderstanding her piece completely, and it is not a warning about the truly a-moral nature of men's bonding behavior in which concepts like care for others or responsibility simply do not exist.
According to Laurie, the only way a man can bond with a woman is if he is having sex with her. Yes, ladies, you must provide sex for any man with whom you want a deep committed relationship. Without sex a man is unable to form a close bond. So this leads a woman to ask, "How much is bonding with a man worth?
What happens if a woman gets sick or has other obligations and can't provide sexual satisfaction to a man? Does he get to put a halt to the relationship of seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere? I'd warn women to think long and hard about these sex-mandated relationships with men. The costs may greatly outweigh any benefits, if there are any benefits. Nope, that's not what she said. For most men, but not all, sex makes the bond stronger.
But it's not the only way they bond with women. You're really not making much of a point by pretending that this article is claiming that men are only interested in sex. You're trying too hard to find fault by what wasn't said, as if every article needs to list all of the 's of ways people bond, and if you don't list them all, the article really means to say what it lists is the ONLY thing.
Well, generally that would be true, and it would also be true advice for men about women. A lot of women would be very unhappy if the man didn't have sex with them. And the way you say "provide sex for any man" seems to suggest you don't get much out of sex for yourself. And that could be an issue you need to explore further for yourself, or ask the man to help make that sex enjoyable for you.
In other words, you see sex as just something you have to "give to a man" to get something else in return? Doesn't sound very appealing to me, so you won't have to worry about me chasing you. What she meant was am I right, ma'am? He'll just move on to someone else who will. It's not that she expects anything in return for it. It's just that it seems to her and to many of us women that sex is the god in the relationship--the one thing that MUST be had, and if that is lacking, nothing else will 'keep' the man.
In my experience, it is not so for women. Even in uncivilized cultures, the women demonstrate affection to the captives brought in from war, as I was just reading about the Comanche culture , and "refused to let the men harm [the little girls sexually].
I have been trying to condense this from feelings into words for years. It is good to find someone who agrees with this and can put it so straightforwardly, honestly and eloquently. Laurie is simply coming from a place of honestly about most men's sexuality, nothing less, nothing more.
You aren't being objective about this article and are putting words into her mouth. Why people simply can't read people's posts or articles without being objective baffles me. Some people are so quick to judge with harsh words, even hatred , especially on the Internet.
Laurie is a professional who has gained insight about the average man's psyche and sexuality, none of which is inapropriate. The topic is Men's sexuality, not relationship issues, unfaithfulness or emotially immature bad boys. She probably assumed that readers would understand that. She never said that men's bodies react a certain way only if his partner is "hot" or beautiful according to societies standards.
Never said that women should have sex with a man in order to get him to bond with her. I'v been practicing abstinence before marriage for several years and I've had men leave me over it.
As much as that hurt me when it happened, I found that i was better off as i learned additional infirmation and im glad I didn't give up my on my faith. Its up to all human bengs to discern about a potential relationship and to guard our own hearts. Men should be doing this too and some do. Not looking at the reality of how the Creator created men or women isn't the answer. Understanding and knowlege is.
I dont enjoy abstinence and have very been very close to walking out on my faith, but it has saved me from heartache and has renewed my sexuality. I'm grateful for this article. Your complaint is about your relationship with a particular man. That's valid and for that you deserve sympathy. Men are not all the same, just as women are not all the same either -- just because a few women are gold diggers doesn't mean I need to stay away from all women.
You may not be alone, but not everybody is in your corner either. Not by a long shot. There are good people out there, both men and women. Why do I always end up in relationships with men who push ME away for wanting sexual intimacy?
It's like the roles are always reversed for me. Sex is how I give love and bond with my partner, so if it's the same for them, why do they stop mere months into a relationship? In my most recent situation he accused me of "wanting to take advantage of him and his body" when all I wanted was to express to him how much I loved him.
The same guy, at one point in the relationship, told me to go use a dildo.. At that moment I felt like a cheap whore. This was all from the same man who told me he wanted to make a child with me, the same man who told me he cared more about me than my own family that's honestly pretty believable but I'm not going to get into that here.
Our last time before the breakup was so intimate I felt more loved than ever before in my life. And then a few days later He was done with me. Any effort to repair it was met with hurtful accusations that I was trying to manipulate his feelings and take advantage of him.
And his friends accused me of stressing HIM out. My head hurts. What's wrong with me? I'm 28 and while I'm definitely not a "10" most people tell me I'm "sexy" or "really pretty"; however, once I'm in a relationship, being rejected by my partners like that makes me feel like a hideous beast.
And it always happens. Is it a turnoff for females to want sex? What do men actually think goes through a woman's head when she wants it? That fun, passionate intimacy that brings us closer. And I'm one of the rare women according to a statistic I saw in the comments who experiences orgasm s by intercourse alone, every time. It's the combination of being desired, forming a loving bond, and being as close to the man I love as I can possibly get.
So it's not like I make sex a boring act. It's always very passionate. Is this Am I doing this all wrong? How do men want us to act towards sex? All I ever hear about is men complaining that their wives or girlfriends don't want it. I'm tired of this hypocrisy. There is probably nothing wrong with you. Men, like women, can have unseen psychological challenges.
This guy could be a romantic narcissist who enjoys entering relationships but can't maintain them. Or he could have mommy issues, intimacy issues or a previous girlfriend who has returned. You don't know. You have two choices 1 There are 3. This stereotyping of which gender is supposed to want what is damaging and a big waste of time. Don't listen to this garbage psychology. Problem is, she said this "always" happens, in which case she's the common denominator.
A lot has to do with who you choose, not how people are on average. When she says this "always" happens, just trying it yet again isn't always the best option. There's nothing wrong with you! It's healthy to desire sex. Bravo to a woman who can take pleasure in bed. However, because you keep finding sexual avoiders You are young and can probably fix this.
Your patterns of romantic attractions can be examined, with the help of a therapist. I think your early words " If, maybe? It is not your fault that the relationship ends, it's a feature of the pairing not being viable. It's mis-matched. It's good that it ends quickly, so you don't waste more of your time and attention, or his. It releases you to find a better match.
Apart from a good psychologist to learn about what's happening for you and how to find better prospects, could I suggest looking at the Robbins-Madenes human needs psychology material? Un-met needs drive us to do seemingly crazy things. There are online tests which show you how strong your needs for Connection vs Autonomy or Significance are, and for variety vs consistence.
Mismatch between my partner and I in connection causes us the most tension. The other suggestion I'd have is to read about the brain chemistry of attraction Some of your narrative sounds a bit like that. Beyond all that, I'm glad that you are not only a very passionate and sexual human When you find the right one, you are both going to be very lucky and enjoy the adventures.
Good searching! If I "wasn't in the mood" and my jartner was, there is little more arousing for me than her pleasuring herself while I watch, and then joining in. Accepting that we can sometimes still want, love and respect a woman, but not feel stimulated yet is important - ignoring it can feel disrespectful and exploitative.
We can read, we can listen, we can sympathize with how men really feel about sex. But, if sex doesn't do the same thing for us, how do we make ourselves "feel" the the way men do? If that is not how we experience sex how on earth can we empathize and truly provide what they desire from us? Meaning: if your man wants sex, that's pretty easy to do You are clueless Quit trolling and punishing other posters because of your need to hate on women Laurie, thanks for this article, well written and well to the point.
I cant believe some people get angry about it and write back with anger. I believe what you said is true, it may not be true for some people, but I do believe it is for most people. Thanks again! In your other article about how women feel about sex, you are comparing giving sex to a husband is like doing laundry and preparing food!?!
Does forced laundry and food preparation make you feel morally and spiritually degraded? If there is relational warmth and good will, this offering can be a real gift of love. It can frustrate her efforts when her partner insists, "But I want you to want it! But because she often feels desire after arousal, she often also finds herself glad that she started making love.
Some women find deep satisfaction in sexual intercourse, even if it comes without her orgasm. I am a historian. A woman historian. Your article sets women's "oral" history back to the dark ages where marriage is all about women submitting to the sexual dominated culture of men and their views of sexual control and privilege.
SEX is not love. That line is as old as a man telling a women that if she really loved him, she would give him sex How has that line worked out for women??? Look at all the unwanted children in the world we have.
How about the history of the research on sex throughout history. It is strictly from the male perspective. Wow, Freud really did women a big favor by his bias research on sex. Everything you have expressed shows how much you are brainwashed by a male dominated society.
What a bunch of nonsense. I personally am sick and tired of women like you promoting sex as love. Men throughout history have NEVER been held accountable for their lack of sexual control and their objectifying of women sexually.
Your article supports male dominance over women. Marriage was created by the human society to protect and honor the family unit, specifically the children and their mothers because women are very vulnerable when they produce children, even from their own husbands. Before there was birth control, men were allowed to kill their wives through child birth because men cared more about having sex than the life of their wife, and mother of their children.
These days and in the USA, a man who will not leave his wife alone and makes her pregnant after already giving birth to a child and a doctor tells him if she gets pregnant it puts her life in danger and she will die if she has another child That man should be put in jail for murder.
No excuse for such irresponsible behavior. Birth control does not make it ok for a man to sexually dominate a woman. Men are the ones who invented religions, governments, and controlled the development of social cultures to the advantage of the human male. Just because a man has a strong sex drive does not give them the right to expect a women be responsible for his lack of self-control.
For you to even suggest that a woman is doing her husband a favor by having sex with him when she does not feel up to it, promoting what has been promoted to women for thousands of years. The creativity was sexy in itself.
Between your man's navel and his nether region lies a strip of hair known as the "treasure trail," so named because of its sensitivity not to mention the fact that it leads right where he's dying for you to go. Want to show him just how prize-worthy this trail really is? Starting right below his navel, take some strands of hair between your lips and pull — just hard enough that he can feel it, but gently enough that he's not jumping out of his skin. The pinpricks of slight pain you'll create will send jolts of electricity throughout his lower abdominal region, and even register below the belt.
Plus, the downward direction you're heading in will make your man's imagination run wild with hot 'n' heavy possibilities. Straddle your husband as he lies on his stomach, and then press your mouth firmly into the nape of his neck.
With your tongue flexed so it's pointy, probe the grooves on each side of his vertebrae, slowly working your way down to his tailbone. If massages usually lull him to sleep, don't be surprised if this one has quite the opposite effect. When you use your lips instead of your hands, your massage instantly goes from relaxing to racy. Here's one you might not have thought of: humming.
At first you might feel a little weird, but the payoff will be worth it. Plus, varying the pitch of your voice creates a range of sensations: Lower pitches create slower vibrations; higher pitches, faster ones. The backs of the knees are especially sensitive, since the nerves are close to the surface, she adds. For maximum sensual impact , swivel your tongue along the crease and then blow on the area. This puff of air will cause the moisture to evaporate, producing a thrilling hot-then-cold sensation.
Plus, he'll be able to actually feel you breathing, which will tune his body in to yours and give your intimacy a surcharge. Take just his bottom lip between yours and suck on it gently, which will bring more blood to the surface of his skin, making this area even more sensitive, says Gardos. To get him in on the act, have him suck on your top lip while you're working on his bottom one; then switch.
Even though "they won't readily admit it," there are lots of places men would love if you lavished attention on, says Eric M. Garrison , an author and clinical sexologist. He suggests flicking your tongue across known erogenous zones — like the underarm — plus not-so-expected locations, like his rib cage.
There's more to your mouth than just a tongue. It doesn't get any easier than this. While sighs and moans are sexy in their own right, whispering phrases , demands, or even just their name is such a turn-on. Bonus: Getting vocal about what you want him to do to you guarantees you'll both enjoy each other even more.
Sexting is fun and all, but nothing beats good old-fashioned phone sex when you're far apart. Use this opportunity to describe your dirtiest fantasies to each other, and don't forget the toys : Garrison suggests using one to mimic oral while you're on the line.
Kristie Overstreet , a California-based sexologist and psychotherapist says. Did you know that there are even more sexy places you can touch your partner? And if all those places you touch him feel good, think about how much better he'll feel when your mouth is on it.
Just some places to consider: his elbows, his toes, his clavicle Every guy is different and will have different specific turn-ons, so it's worth trying new spots. Yes, questions can be sexy — but the answers can be even better.
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